YES, LORD AND MASTER

This one betters the pervious lot. She is so focused on pleasing her man that she has lost her own sense of self. Men who like the butter-wouldn’t-melt-in-your-mouth types would warm up to such girls, but their interest would not hold for more that three dates. Where is the passion, where is the fun? A relationship without any conflict or tension is a dud. He is looking for a life partner; not a secretary. You of course give him all the hope of a hearty twosome with a chair.

When he envisions the future with you he sees red flags at every turn. For you may have assumed “Savitri” as your middle name, he simply translates it as boring. Most women have an over-riding natural maternal instinct. But not every man is searching for his mother in his future wife. And you would be lucky if your prospective mate is one of them.

Chill pill: Your task at hand is very easy really — stand your ground firmly. Don’t worry about getting into small tiffs. Get out of your self-created contented zone. Think of it this way — a heated argument will bring a spot of natural red to your face. And that’s when he’ll know that he is with a woman who has beauty and brains.

THE DARK LADY

She is carting around a hurt from the past. It may have cut deep and she is not over it completely. Although she is friendly with everyone around her and projects a sunny disposition, she has erected a strong protective wall inwardly. She will not emerge from this shell as she is wary to giving too much of herself away. She is afraid of trusting the man of the moment completely. But she loves him all the way for sure.

Problem is, he needs to know in more ways than one. And he needs to be needed as well. Which is why it’s ok to let go. What’s more, he feels deprived as he feels that he is kept waiting on the sidelines. He will wait and wait and then eventually leave.

Chill pill: Learn to heal. It takes time, but it is possible. One way of achieving this is by ensuring that your job (assuming you have one) is fulfilling. Ensure that you are surrounded by friends and family that provide succor for the soul. That way you will come across people you will be able to trust once again. By the end of it, you will gain a positive attitude towards life. And once there, anything can happen.

LOVE FOR THEATRICS

She is the product of the afternoon soap-opera generation. She was 12 when the saans-bahu serials scourged our lives and by 20 she fully imbibed Kumkum and Katrina Kaif’s penchant for theatrics in their respective screen lives.

We are Indian and we love to be emotional — over the spilt mustard on the t-shirt at McDonald’s, over mascara running down the cheeks in the course of a weepy film, accidentally running into your next door neighbour across the street, on seeing your ex-boyfriend on Orkut.

He doesn’t want you because you are exhausting.

Chill pill: You are a simple girl, really. But your problem is this — the biggest challenge in your life up until now has been attempting to make a choice between 20 ice-cream flavours for yourself. You have had no real concerns. And have hardly interacted with any interesting people. Time to remedy that. It will help you keep the lid on most trivialities of life.

WORK, WORK, WORK

She was about birthed on an appointment desk! She is a career woman. She wears Prada and they anticipate that she is a allegation from hell. She works harder and believes in arena harder. She has aggregate traveling for her and cannot appreciate why she is consistently kept out in the algid if it comes to appear to men.

She does not appreciate this because she does not see blemish in acrimonious up business calls in the advance of a date, alive on her story-board through what was planned to be a adventurous weekend.

Scratch added and you will acquisition that while she is abiding of herself in the workspace, she isn’t absolutely there if it comes to ambidextrous or developing claimed relationships.

Just calculation the amount of times she has acclimated plan as an alibi not to blooper out for a quick coffee or lunch. She does that not because she is bushed but because she is borderline of herself alfresco the acquaintance of her workstation.

Obviously, he can’t authority out forever.

Chill pill: Apprentice to relax. Your absolute band is actual attractive, but that’s just the aboriginal anniversary achieved. For the rest, you charge to accord some of yourself and apprentice to play assorted absorbing roles a woman is wont to in avant-garde times: boss, friend, girlfriend, lover, confidante, wife, mother.

Are you a Failure at Love ?

The father of psychoanalysis Sigmund Freud wrestled with million dollar question — what do women want — all his life and failed to arrive at a suitable answer that may have eased at least one of mankind’s many worries.

Contemporary times are even more confusing, with most women perplexed with the question of what men want. Women have chosen to assume many roles which has left men teetering on the brink, tiredly moving on the conveyor belt of one date after another, or worse, “seeing” one girl after another.

The essential question then is what do men want? A close observation of their dating patterns has revealed that the following are the types they are not likely to commit to in a hurry:

THE PLANNER: She has been clear of her objective in life from the time she turned 12: she would meet the right chap at 23, date him for no more than a year, get engaged to him and have a year-long engagement (time enough to let her prepare for Kodak-moments strewn wedding soon); get married by 26 and have a baby by 28. If the wedding is to too close to the baby-bearing deadline, they’d go ahead and have a honeymoon baby.
Picture perfect. So why is this perfection so irksome to the man?

Simple. She has her life well mapped out. Not his. In her endeavour to make a full life for herself by 28, she worries too much about the package he represents (money, homes, holidays, rocks, exclusive couture shopping et al) and not the real man. That’s worrisome for him: he is not a mere provider.

Chill pill: Loosen up and lose the list. Get to know your date better, try to integrate within his group and include him into yours as well. Throw the idea of commitment to the winds and just go with the flow; enjoy the kick of not knowing what the tide might bring.

10 Important Dating Tips for Men

When it comes to dating, being wealthy can leave you tripping over your own assets. For those of you who’d like to date a woman who loves you more than your money,

There is a saying that “you never get a second chance to make a good first impression.” With that in mind, it is vital to be fully prepared to make a great impression on each date you go on. Here are 10 tips for men on dating success and making an impression that will last.

1. Ditch the Crack Berry:- We know you’re a very important person. You know you’re a very important person. If your PDA has become so significant that you can’t sit through a meal without checking in, perhaps you should be taking it out on a date. For now, focus on the person in front of you.

2. Take a Bath or Shower:- One of the worst things you could do when going out on a date (especially if it is your first date) is to turn up unshaven, looking dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner of the species and will partly judge you on how hygienic you are. After all, you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a mutt dog with tangled fur that hadn’t bathed for days.

It doesn’t cost anything to take a bath and to make an effort to look and smell nice. Remember, bad breath and body odor are an instant turn off and she will assume that this is how you are all the time even if you are just having a bad day. As a result, she won’t be able to see beyond your appearance.

3. Don’t Spend More Than $100 on the First Date:- During the dot-com boom, I was taken to Napa Valley on a very expensive first date. He arrived at my San Francisco apartment with a limo, and we were driven around Napa, where we shared bottles of wine and ate more than I usually do in a week. Before going home, we went for mud baths and couples massages.
Though I enjoyed it, and thanked my date profusely, I couldn’t help but think that he was trying too hard. A few years later, I went to Napa with another date. We drove up in an old convertible, rented bicycles, filled a picnic basked with treats along the way, and romped in a hot spring that we found. It was a blast. Just because you have the money doesn’t mean you have to spend it.

4. Arrive on Time:- Whatever you do, don’t turn up late. Turning up late will send out all the wrong impressions. At first she may think she’s been stood up, but after arriving late her opinion will change to you being unreliable or not caring enough about her to be on time. If you are picking her up from her home then it is advisable to turn up five minute before you are due. Any earlier and you might catch her adjusting her makeup or still getting ready. Five minutes early is the earliest you should arrive. But never be late.

5. Not the Waitress:- Do not attempt to hit on any other women while you are on a date. Often, women will “pass” a date along to other women (friends, sisters), but only if she thinks you’re great. This means giving her your undivided attention for the evening. You can be with her best friend next week, and she might just help you get there, but for now, you’re with her.

6. Be a Gentleman:- Hold the door open for her, let her walk through the doors first, pull her chair, and be polite to her along with the people around you. Women like to feel special and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.

7. Not Your Ex:- The wine is flowing, and you find yourself sitting across from a doe-eyed beauty who is hanging on your every word. No one has listened to you like this in years. You’re relaxed, comfortable and suddenly you want to blurt out your deepest darkest about your ex-wives, ex-girlfriends and your overbearing mother. She liked you so much until then. If the phrase “psycho bitch” comes to mind, change the topic.

8. Listen to Her and Ask Questions:- Nobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. A woman is attracted to a man who is genuinely interested in hearing what she has to say. Spend a lot more time asking her questions and letting her talk than talking yourself.

9. Pay for the Date:- It’s virtually always appropriate for a gentleman to offer to pay for the date. When a man takes it upon himself to pay for the date, he is displaying that old act of “chivalry” that is missing from many men these days. However, some women feel more comfortable going “dutch” and if she insists on this, then don’t resist. To avoid awkwardness, make sure you let her know before the date that you plan on paying for it.

10. I’ll Call You:- Only tell her that you will call her if you mean it and intend on seeing her again. Do not, under any circumstances, tell her you will call her if you are not interested and have no plans to call her. In this case, when saying goodbye, just say, “It was nice meeting you” and wish her luck. Or you could just say good night, smile and walk a way. But if you do like her and are interested, then you must let her know.

Dating Tips

Welcome to Dating Best Idea, a blog specializes in providing daily fresh online dating article with a lot of tips and ideas. Nowadays Dating Online is probably the most significant application of the Internet. It is fascinating how simple it is for people to communicate and to exchange thoughts and ideas with others. Dating online is the easiest way to bring people with the same interests and mindsets together. That might be the major key what it makes so popular. Now over 40% of all American singles have tried online dating at least once.

These days American men and women are such centered on work and career that they’re more and more finding it hard to get dates. This is because modern people don’t have the time any longer to explore the single scenes. Most people, already established with work and careers are most time tired after a hard day’s work to even go out. The large majority would rather relax, stay at home and catch up with some reading or do some household chores. Although bars are still filled with people, but most of them are either too young to be in a relationship or are not so serious with relationship matters.

Today people have more variety and options on where to go to meet other people. With the growing of the internet people are also becoming more tech-enmeshed, since all aspects of their lives can be done through the Internet. Meeting potential dates and dating can also be done in the virtual world. Over the past years online personal dating sites have become a great success. People are fast browsing through dating sites and messaging people who interest them. Even though some profiles turn out to be dubious but most of them are honest people who are just looking for the perfect mate.

Summer Dating Ideas….

Summer it’s the time of the year that most of us like and badly expecting. It is the time for enjoying outdoors, getting hot and sweaty; it is all about lazy, hot days and fun filled nights. When talking about summer the first things that come in your mind are pool parties, beach music, barbecues, ice cream, cold drinks and a lot of fun.

Summertime is a few days away and maybe you are wondering how will you spend this summer in order to have a lot of fun. Life seems easier in summertime, the hot weather affords you countless creative ways to plan a date. Summer offers a great opportunity to do some fun and creative things that can leave an impact on your date, even if you have already a girlfriend, or now you are looking for one.

Spending an unforgettable summer with your girlfriend is very easy. All you have to know is how to offer her an interesting and funny summer. So, here are some summer dating ideas that might help you, but also you may come with your own cool ideas.

1.Go to the beach

-the beach is very beautiful,is a place where you can have a lot of fun, but also allows you to be romantic with your partner

-you may go for a long walk on the empty beach, when the night is cool

-dinner on the beach can be a very romantic idea; the two of you can enjoy a dinner on the beach and then gaze at the stars; having a candlelight picnic on the beach with roses spread along a path where your blanket is; it can be a night where you can look at the stars, cuddle and kiss, and also listen to a romantic music

-as I said, at the beach you can have also a lot of fun: you can play ball, beach volleyball, surf, trampoline and also build sand sculptures

-there are also many outdoor festivals and concerts

2. Backyard barbecue

- is a perfect idea for spending time with your common friends

-cold drinks, fresh salads and sausages charred to within an inch of their lives

-is a perfect date for anyone who has a big interest in cooking and entertaining;

-allows you to show off your gathering skills to your mates

3. Go to festivals,carnivals and outdoor shows

-an outdoor festival would be a great chance to bond one-on-one and still buy a little something beautiful for her

-go see fireworks

-go dancing at music festivals, and even dance clubs; enjoy dancing outside to a live band

-the festive atmosphere of summer carnivals boost the fun factor of any date

-shows are great if you both enjoy the performance

4.Take her to a picnic

-prepare her a meal that will impress her

- choose an interesting location such as the beach or a local park

-grab an old blanket or sheet, a flashlight and a guide to constellations and stars

-but if you like to pay attention at the details, choose carefully the tablecloth, good plates and cups and also don’t forget the wine

-also you can spend the afternoon eating strawberries and cream in a distant meadow

5. Play sports

-if she is the athletic type, have some fun by playing sports such as: tennis, horse-back riding, rolling blading, bike rides, golf

-you can play bowling with your friends; play guys against girls or compete couple against couple

-hire in line roller skater and make fool of yourself in the local park

-go on a nature hike together

-also you may play some team sports such as soccer game, football game, volleyball game

6.Learn to surf

- is a fabulous date idea for those who love to try something new and are not afraid of water

-sea air and salt water are powerfully invigorating and also great for the skin

7.Sunset cruise for two

-plan a sunset cruise on a sailboat; enjoy the time spend together in this special atmosphere

-if you know that she likes very much water, you can also plan an afternoon boat trip and enjoy the passing scenery

8.Water park

-water parks are a unique source of fun in summer

-have fun by riding down rapids, shooting down slides or just floating over the lazy river

9.Go fishing

-also another choice is to drive up to a lake or river, rent a boat and paddle around; you may teach her how to fish

-fishing in the dark can be very romantic; so head out on a boat for a romantic fishing in the dark by moonlight

10. Visit waterfalls

-put together a map of nearby waterfalls and spend your day hiking to each of them

-bring along a picnic lunch and eat beside a waterfall

-to be more romantic, you can also swim under the waterfall

11. Plan a camping trip

-spend private time together during a camping trip

-camp out in a tent on a secluded area such as a beach or a mountain

-watch the stars and enjoy a couple sips of cool champagne

12. Go to visit the Zoo

-if your town has a zoo, it can be a really fun place to go with your date, especially in the summer when many animals are more active

-is a fun and relaxing place in the same time

13. Outdoors restaurants

-it is a usual kind of date to take her to the restaurant, but the outdoors restaurants have a special charm

-with a great view and a fresh breeze, these ones creates a very romantic atmosphere

-the scenery changes as the dusk falls

Summer is the season full of joy, fun and excitement. It is not the perfect time to stay at home. So, take your girlfriend and make all the crazy things you both like in order to have a great time and spend an unforgettable summer

Fun Date Ideas……

Need an idea for what to do on a date? Here’s how to go about finding ideas for new and unusual dates that are enjoyable and memorable.

The three most usual choices for what to do on a date are dinner, a movie, and a public event such as a sports game or concert. Those activities often give the couple several hours of time to enjoy each other’s company. But relying on those same activities too often, leads to a loss of a sense of drama and a loss of a sense of importance of the time spent together.

Human nature craves the out-of-the-ordinary. A new experience raises awareness and pumps up our interest level. If a couple continues to occasionally find new and unusual choices for what to do, their time together will be more enjoyable.

Probably the best way to find new ideas for what to do for a date is to make a point of being on the lookout for possibilities. You might see something in the newspaper or in a magazine. Someone you know could share an idea they have had. You never know when an idea will present itself.

You should also actively search for new and unusual things to do. A great place to look for ideas is web sites about things you are interested in. Use Google or your favorite search engine. Key in words or phrases that describe the activities and events that you find interesting and enjoyable. Look through the list of web sites found with the search. Browse the sites that seem most promising. The local visitors’ bureau is a possible source of ideas. They will likely have many brochures about local attractions. Look in the community events section of your newspaper. Check out the listings with you county, city or community center. Look through the brochures at the Chamber of Commerce. Look in the yellow pages under headings such as canoeing, rafting, kayaking, hiking, photography classes, and art museums. Check the bulletin board at the library. Use your imagination to adapt what you see at those places to suit your own interests and tastes. Once you have identified a particular interest, go to shops that sell equipment for that activity. Ask about events and programs in your locality.

Keep a list of possible activities. Have a place to keep information such as brochures, maps, and visitors’ guides. Set up folders in your computer for storing information you have found online. Use Notepad to copy and paste just what is of interest to you. The File menu of most web browsers has a Save As command that can be used to save an entire web page.

Be open to any suggestions and preferences your partner has to offer. Try to be sensitive to his/her tastes and interests. Give almost as much importance to his/her enjoyment of the date as your own enjoyment. After all, you probably won’t enjoy the date if your partner doesn’t.

Try to choose activities that give enough opportunities for
communication. Conversation and comments you and your date make to each other are often the most important part of the date. Couples need to find out each other’s values and interests. Couples need reassurance and the stimulation of each other’s ideas.

Pursue your own interests. Revive an old dream or pursue a recent ambition. Being passionate about something makes you more interesting.

Stay informed to stay interesting. Keep up with current events and issues. Listen to the news and news commentary programs. One good source I like is the web sites of National Public Radio. What you do and where you go on a date are not so critical, if the two of you are interesting and caring.

My Darling Sister

Sister, my sister, I love thee so, come sit beside me, share my light.
Consider the days past when we were young,
how we loved and cared for our very own,
how we picked wild flowers in the wood,
even though we were not allowed to roam.
How we would sneak out from home, romp in the sugarcane fields,
chase butterflies, pick strawberries until dusk took us unaware,
chase fireflies until mother called us to come home,
and sometimes scolded until our ears did burn.
Sister, my sister I miss thee so.